Vitaly Kirkpatrick

Memoir · Book Three · Elder Magidov series · Drafted, not finished

Vitaly Kirkpatrick

Elder
Magidov

unfinished

The Family I Went Looking For

A Gay LDS Missionary Memoir — from a Ukrainian Orphanage to the England London Mission

A boy with no family joined the church to find one, and for two years, it worked. Known on the mission by his nametag — Elder Magidov.

2002–2004, England · drafted, not finished · no publication date

Not the story you expect

Entry, not exit

Most memoirs about growing up gay and Mormon are about leaving — dismantling an inherited faith, naming what it cost. This one is the opposite direction. Vitaly wasn’t raised in the church. He joined it, at seventeen, with no family and nothing to lose, because it offered him one. For two years as a missionary in England, it delivered exactly that — brothers, structure, a place to belong — before the part of himself he couldn’t fit into it caught up with him.

What this one is made of

Four things, all true at once

A family, found

An orphan with no relatives of his own, adopted into a structure of companions, mission presidents, and members who called each other brother and sister and meant it.

A mission, worked

Two years in the England London Mission — door to door, companion to companion, baptism to baptism. Not a story about doubt. A story about it functioning.

A body of belief

A patriarchal blessing that promised a family, and a testimony given honestly, while carrying something the blessing didn’t leave room for.

The wound, later

What happens after two years of it working — not on page one, and not the whole book. The trap this book refuses: making the mission only the setup for the pain.

From the manuscript

Lines, as they were written

Pulled directly from the working draft — unedited, chapter and register noted.

“The icy fingers of winter caressed my face… Every knock on the door echoed with the rhythm of my heartbeat, a moment of stark anticipation.”
Chapter 1 · Feeling Like a Burden
“A kind Scottish landlady, Ma Hansen, came to my rescue. She gave me her son’s navy duffle coat, which kept me warm and dry through the dreary days. Later, I discovered that her son had been killed in…”
Chapter 16 · My First Mission Companion, London
“As the Patriarch spoke, he said I would have a family. I had always wanted this, but I knew deep down that I was attracted to the same gender.”
Chapter 38 · The Patriarchal Blessing

Setting

Chernivtsi, then England

The book opens in western Ukraine, six hours from the Carpathians and the Romanian border, a city that has changed hands across empires more times than it has kept one name. It moves to England in 2002 — cold, damp, unfamiliar — and stays there through September 2004, the length of the mission.

Is this for you

Who this book is for

Read this if…

  • You want a Mormon-missionary memoir that isn’t only about leaving
  • You’re interested in faith and identity held at the same time, not resolved
  • You’ve read VITALY and want to know what happened after the orphanage

Maybe skip it if…

  • You’re looking for a straightforward institutional-critique memoir
  • You want the mission chapters to already contain the resolution — they don’t; that comes later, in the life after

No date promised

It’s finished when it’s finished

It ends on the morning somebody gave me a gold ring — which is where the second book gets its title, and neither book explains it on its own. Leave an email and I’ll tell you when this one is out.

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